Grieving is not the process that is easily controlled. There is no time frame for it. Feelings take various shapes and forms, so there is no common way of getting over it. You may meet men who rush to get romantic attachments weeks after they lost their spouse. They might have loved their wives dearly, but turning out to be abandoned all of a sudden makes them accelerate events. On the other hand, some men tend to stay away from serious commitments for years.
Statistics show that men are more likely to force actions. It doesn’t usually take widowers a long time before they get back into dating. Being only a few weeks into their widowhood they are already eager to find a woman who eventually will cure their heartache. This term is not nearly enough to actually be ready for making emotional bonds.
At the same time, men often times decide on starting going on dates due to society pushing them. People around have good intentions advising going on. But nobody else rather than a man himself can judge whether the time has come or not. Sadly, there is no other way to check the waters than going on a date. But feeling of it being to soon may appear right when a woman waves her hand in a greeting sign.
If it comes to you that your new partner might not feel right about dating you, a temporary break is a good idea. Don’t feel guilty, you are not responsible for what the person feels, you can’t force the idea of loving you instantly in somebody’s mind, especially if a man has already experienced strong affection to a woman before. Usually it’s not a new passion who makes mistakes, it’s just the feeling of an overwhelming grief coming back.
Widowers also tend to decide they are cheating on their late wives. They feel they are being disapproved for even thinking about filling the emptiness in their heart with love again. Don’t push it and wait patiently, if you are dating a widower, it will eventually get better, especially if you stick around.