Romance is surrounding us everywhere. We watch it in movies, follow it along the lines of literature and generally see it in every bit of our life. The image we get tells us that no matter how hard the beginning could be, all efforts will eventually lead to a happily ever after with the love of your life.
In reality, men and women still struggle to get into relationships. Guys are too afraid to come closer to an ideal woman they meet because they don’t really know how to perform all the courtship. And this is absolutely normal: we understand that the knowledge of wooing doesn’t belong to men from birth. To learn it you need several things, such as understanding what a girl's nature is and knowing how to behave yourself correctly to seduce a girl and to win her heart.
For those of you hesitating about their abilities in courting a woman, we prepared some advice. Be sure to check it out.
There is no way a woman would fall for somebody who doesn’t like himself at all. Besides that, if you are not confident, anything you do will look hilarious. Any woman will intuitively understand you are in doubt or nervous and all your attempts will become pointless, as girls prefer to have fearless men by their side.
Accept the fact that dating is kind of nerve-wracking for you and you will be vulnerable.
So before going on a date, do a little work in the self-persuasion department. Accept the fact that dating is kind of nerve-wracking for you and you will be vulnerable. If these emotions are not overwhelmingly powerful, they won’t bother you. Therefore your task is to get them under control.
What might help is realizing that women are the same humans as you are. They don’t want you to be perfect in every single move and they too understand how terrifying it can be to spend time with a person you like. Girls are worried about the impression they would leave as well. But that doesn’t mean they would show it right off, as it will ruin the communication as a whole.
Show her as much interest as you can. Don’t share your attention with anything or anyone else. Girls love to be exclusive, and if she finds out you are courting another woman, your chances immediately fall to zero.
Maintain eye contact while listening to your date speaking.
But apart from that, when you come on a date, be present and involved in a conversation. Maintain eye contact while listening to your date speaking. Show how interested you are in the topic you are discussing, carry on the dialogue by asking more related questions, and share your own opinion on the matter.
Remember to use gestures as well. Nod every now and then to show agreement.
And put your phone away the moment you meet with a girl. Nothing is worse than a date with a man who is repeatedly checking on his messages. For a woman, it is a sign you are not interested in her, and moreover, bored enough to spend time on your phone. All in all, it is just impolite.
Even though it is pretty easy to make an assumption that girls adore gloomy, mysterious men, it may be so only from a certain distance. While such types of guys definitely look attractive to look at, communication with an extremely serious person is not everybody’s cup of tea.
A happy person is always significantly more pleasant to talk to, and your personality will not be left unnoticed if you manage to proceed with communication.
Rather than trying to immediately show how many mysteries are hidden behind your exterior, try to look optimistic. A happy person is always significantly more pleasant to talk to, and your personality will not be left unnoticed if you manage to proceed with communication. On the other hand, it would not matter what you really are if you were playing a moody reserved part.
Another good idea to use while trying to break the ice is making jokes. Contagious laughter is definitely a tool to unite people. But make sure you are not joking about inappropriate things so that nobody is hurt and the goal of convergence is achieved.
Keep the contact
Yes, men are well-known for being reserved and disappearing after a single date. Obviously, you might be afraid to bother a girl you fell for too often, but she is also waiting for you to make the first move. And if nobody actually makes it, the relationship will not develop.
The more she talks to you, the more trust she develops and the more you learn about her.
Provided you are sure that the first date went all right, give her a call the next day or when you have a spare minute. Men who know how to woo a girl also keep in mind that girls like to talk. And if you understand that you liked each other, why not give your lady an opportunity to do what she enjoys. The more she talks to you, the more trust she develops and the more you learn about her. Moreover, if she happens to be an interesting interlocutor (and we bet she is if you happened to really like her), you will just have a good time together.
To win her over, don’t forget to answer her messages on social media timely. The worst scenario for a woman is when she makes a step and contacts a man herself and never gets a response. So be sure to check your mailbox every now and then - there is no need to constantly be online, but if you are not busy, answering the girl of your dreams will be more useful than pointlessly scrolling through a Facebook feed.
Pay for her
Courting a woman like that, you give her the impression of a chivalrous gentleman who is ready to do a lot for his woman’s pleasure.
The question of paying the bill is the bone of contention in many happy couples. Especially it concerns those people who don’t earn enough to afford romantic adventures by themselves or the couples where one of the partners is currently unemployed. But in case you are able to allow yourself little spendings, just do it.
Courting a woman like that, you give her the impression of a chivalrous gentleman who is ready to do a lot for his woman’s pleasure. Such gestures also show how much you care about her and that you are eager to invest in your girlfriend’s happiness.
Of course, you will meet ladies who want to pay for themselves no matter what. In such cases, you can come to an agreement that you will pay in turns, or that she will pay accidentally, but not every single time. And if you happen to be a girl whose boyfriend doesn’t want to split the bill, pay him back with little sweet presents and delicious snacks to eat while watching Netflix.
Introduce her to those close to you
If you are looking for a main tip on how to win her and show she is important here it is: get her acquainted with your nearest and dearest. That includes two parties:
- your friends;
- your family.
Start with the first. The main point of introducing a girlfriend to a circle of friends is in showing her how valuable she is. If you let her join the group of those who know you so well, it is a sign that you want more and is expecting this affair to develop into something serious.
Moreover, you might find out your date actually has a lot in common with your friends. It means she will have the chance of becoming a good member of your circle. If that happens, it will be enjoyable to spend time together with her and your friends as everybody will like it. And if you don’t work out as a couple, at least you won’t become blood enemies and maybe grow into real friends instead.
As for the family members, you might want to take some time before showing the girl to your parents. This often feels like an important step and you don’t want to let the wrong woman join your family. But the moment you feel she is the one, don’t hesitate to organize a meeting. Postponing it for too long will give an impression of you doubting this relationship can grow into something serious. On behalf of your girlfriend, it may result in her being disappointed and thinking twice before agreeing to make it long-term.
Get to know her loved ones
Your task is to make everybody like you, as women value the opinion of their friends and relatives.
As important as letting her into your inner circle is, you need to get to know her friends and family as well. If she decides it is time you meet any of them, agree unconditionally. Your task is to make everybody like you, as women value the opinion of their friends and relatives.
When meeting the girls she spends time with, be nice to all of them, but not too much. You want to build good communication, but never aim to give a feeling of courting anybody other than your date. Remember, your girlfriend will discuss you after and do what you can to make them see your best sides.
Meeting the parents is equally if not more important. Keep in mind all manners you have ever been taught and apply them to the situation. You might bring your girlfriend’s mother flowers, it is a nice gesture. But be sure to talk to her father as well: he will be the person who decides on your fate when you come to ask for your significant other’s hand.
Another useful idea about how to win a girl is being reliable. Women want a man by their side who can catch them when they are falling, saying metaphorically. That means just being there for her. Let her know she can address you if any difficulties arise and you together will find the way out of it.
To allow a person to help you with personal problems means to let him come close enough.
This is not a thing that happens overnight though. To allow a person to help you with personal problems means to let him come close enough. Also, girls often don’t want to bother guys because they think boys are not interested in their issues. But if she eventually comes to you asking for help, be the one who actually does enough. Apart from actions, try to give her mental support if she needs it.
Of course, actions speak louder than words. But if they come together, they will play a game you will never lose. That said, pay attention to details and give your date compliments every now and then. Comments on appearance will be obviously much appreciated as women put a lot of effort into their looks. But a woman is much more than clothes and makeup.
In today's world, sincerity and authenticity are sorely lacking. So many pretend to be who they are not. Men and women all over the world pretend to be other people. Do not be like them, do not pretend. Women really value sincerity and authenticity. The truth, sooner or later, will still come to light. In this case, you risk becoming a disappointment all her life.
Do not miss the little things
Such small moments as: to take her (or even her friend) home, open the door, move a chair in a restaurant, etc. very striking girls in the eye. Be sure, she will appreciate your chivalry and dignity.
Give her maximum attention
Turn off the sound on your phone when you are with her. Do not check mail, do not watch the television when it is at your place (only if you do not watch something with it). Do not be distracted by anything - let her see that all your attention is focused on her.
Pay attention to the things that she likes and dislikes
Do not ask her about it, but try to notice it yourself. She will be very pleasantly surprised when you give her the ring she talked about six months ago or take her to the restaurant she mentioned in passing.
Do not drop her when she needs you
Throw everything and come to her when she is sad. Or call her if in the correspondence she mentions something that upsets her. At such moments, the girls need someone nearby and if you will, this will strengthen her feelings for you.
Areas worth paying attention to are as follows:
- work achievements.
But also try to catch the idea of how she sees herself first. Often when the compliment is given about the area which a person is insecure about, it seems as a lie or a bad joke even when you sincerely wanted to say a pleasant thing. To avoid such situations, echo what she already knows. If a woman believes her strong side is the art she does, complement on it, if she is proud of her university degree, come up with something sweet about it.